December
2013

How Do I Heal From This Pain?

Reiki blog image These are some principles that I have found to be helpful in healing the pain and suffering that occur in an abusive relationship. I speak to you, those that have been overcome by abuse – whether it be physical and or emotional. You deserve to live a life without fear. You deserve to be loved and to feel safe. I also speak to you, the abuser. You may be harder to reach, but I say to you – you too...

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December
2013

The Stealth Hunters – In relation to CHILDREN

Reiki blog image STEALTH HUNTERS In relation to CHILDREN Over the years I've lived through and noticed a number of disturbing behaviors in the complicated and contentious area of child custody during divorce proceedings. It is almost as though a psychotic element of personality can emerge when two people

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December
2013

The Stealth Hunters

Reiki blog image THE STEALTH HUNTERS I'd like to talk to you about common behaviors and characteristics of abusers that do their work in a hidden or covert way. I call them stealth hunters (based on natures model) and manipulators interchangeably for the purposes of this blog. They do the equivalent of hunt at night. They can eye prey with precision and before you know it, you are the meal! 1. Selecting the victim

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November
2013

The Prey – Characteristics and Behavior of the Victims

Reiki blog image The Prey – Characteristics and Behavior of the Victims 1. What makes you so vulnerable? Let's start out with a look at what makes you so vulnerable to the manipulator. What signals are you sending out that draws them to you like a magnet? Here are some questions for you: Are you needy, deep down inside? Are you desperate for love, attention and approval?

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November
2013

The Cycle of Abuse

Reiki blog image Lenore Walker The origin of the cycle of abuse rests with the work of a woman named Lenore Walker in the 1970s. Her seminal work explained the pattern that she saw in abusive relationships.  While she focused on the patriarchal misuse of power, the pattern can be seen in other relationships – whether it be between man to wife, wife to husband, mother or father to their child or children, children to the mother or father, or homosexual relationships.  It...

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October
2013

A. Introduction: Power Politics or True Empowerment

Reiki blog image   Power Politics or True Empowerment by Cynthia M Chase      With awareness, we have choice. Knowing the “truth” can set us free. This blog is based on personal and 30 plus years of clinical experience. It is my hope that by sharing the intricacies and inner workings of abusive relationships

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June
2013

Loss is part of being human

Reiki blog image Loss is part of being Human I had a dream the other night. I met a Buddhist Monk and he looked right into my eyes, or maybe I should say he looked deep into me and through me. He said, I understand that you engage in a practice that assumes Buddhist principles. I challenge you then to let go – don’t hold too hard to anything. Hold lightly, living, letting the present moment slip through your fingers so that it...

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May
2013

Rejoice in the mystery: my walk with magic

Reiki blog image As a child I was fascinated by the fact that I could feel energy in my hands and the hands of others. What is this feeling? If I held my hand a few inches away from another hand there was something like electricity that passed between us! Laying under the stars on a warm summer night I began to understand that there are unseen forces that connect us. And then there was the time, on a path deep in the...

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